When I made the decision to gain weight I never considered how far it would take me. It’s not like I didn’t think I could do it, because I knew I could figure it out eventually. It’s more like I never thought years later I would be blogging about my experience.
It’s been almost 3 years since I made that life changing decision and I remember even now what people would say to me during that process.
People would tell me things like:
“You’re going to wish you didn’t gain all this weight.”
“Why are you going to the gym so much, you’re already skinny?”
“Be careful, you’re going to start gaining weight and not be able to stop.”
Just to name a few.
I wasn’t sure if those people were actually concerned about me, or just ignorant in their way of thinking. Either way, I chose not to listen to them and I went after what I wanted.
Which is definitely on the list of Best Decisions I’ve Made for Myself.
Now years later I’ve started to reflect on the experiences I’ve had while I was focused on gaining weight and what they’ve taught me. And I realize that if I didn’t go through as many ups and down as I did, the end of the journey wouldn’t have been as meaningful.
So in the spirit of giving, I’m going to share some things I learned during my weight gain journey that may help you during yours.
Everything I Learned on My Weight Gain Journey
Not everyone is going to be supportive.
This part I figured as much but it was interesting to see it. They only people who were all for me gaining weight and going to the gym were my best friends and my then boyfriend.
My family didn’t really understand what I was doing or why so they were indifferent and made jokes about it as family does.
And acquaintances? Well they had the most to say about it. This is when you have to get over the fact that understand or supper what you’re doing and you have to just do what you know feels right to you. Because you’re the one that has to live with your decisions.
Obsessing over the scale does not make you gain weight faster.
It actually makes you feel like you’re gaining weight slowly. Because you are. Initially you might see the scale jump up fast when you go from 0 to 100 because you’re stuffing your face and working out more. But that’ll slow down because you only should be gaining a pound or two a week. 0.5 of a pound if you’re taking it slow.
So anytime the scale goes up or down a little take it with grain of salt. As long as you’re seeing overall growth from week to week you’re all good.
Exercising for 2 hours is no better than exercising for 1 good hour.
It’s not the length of time you work out that’s makes the difference in your gaining weight and building muscle. It’s what you do it that time frame. A productive 1 hour workout is better than over working your muscles for 2 hours.
If that’s what you like to do by all means do it, but you’re not getting any awards by staying in the gym longer.
You’re Not Always Going to be Motivated.
No matter what you’re doing in life, motivation is fleeting. Even if it’s something you’re passionate about.
And trying to gain weight is no different. I’ve wanted to gain weight for YEARS and even though I knew that, there were days that I didn’t feel like going through what it takes to do it.
I didn’t feel like eating something 6 times a day. Most of the time I was so stuffed I didn’t know if I could. There were plenty of days that I didn’t want to work out and I would sit at home or in my car for an hour contemplating before I actually decided to go to the gym.
But when motivation disappears you have to have discipline to keep you going. There’s no shortcuts. There’s no other way around it.
People aren’t immediately going to see the changes that you see.
I was taking pictures of myself and looking at my body everyday. I made sure I was hitting my calorie goals and pushing myself in my workouts.
So why couldn’t anyone see all the changes in my body that I saw? Especially my boyfriend who saw me almost everyday.
Well it turns out that people just aren’t that observant when it comes to things that they have no interest in. And seeing as my weight gain didn’t affect them directly, they didn’t notice all the small changes I noticed.
It took a little over two months for people to start seeing the difference in my body and how I looked.
Gaining weight can attract unwanted attention.
Even though I knew this was going to happen, somehow I was still surprised when it did.
Although some women may like or want a lot of attention I personally didn’t care for it. I think it’s because of my reserved personality. But a lot of men and women are attracted to curves so there’s not much you can really do about that.
I think the most entertaining part about gaining weight is that there will be people who never considered talking to you before, who will talk to you as if you were long lost friends. Girls and guys. All because you look different and they see you growing.
But try not to get too caught up in the superficial friendships and relationships. Instead, it may be better to ignore the people who may have ignored you in the past. Or at the very least remain indifferent.
You’re not always going to be happy about the weight you’ve gained.
Here’s the thing. I’ve never regretted gaining weight. But there were days where I felt like I gained too much weight. Or that some of the weight was going to the wrong process. But I learned that you have to look at it from a broader perspective.
Sure, you might not like certain parts of the way you look at the moment but it’s all a process. And if it turns out that you seriously just hate it or you’re just not happy then you can always lose the weight. It’s not permanent.
While I was gaining weight my face got chubby and I got back fat and really dark stretch marks. And even though I didn’t like it, I tried not to focus on it. I kept gaining weight until I was ready to stop. And then, eventually, I lost a little bit to slim down my face and my waist.
It can be just as hard to maintain the weight as it is to put it on.
This I learned the hard way. I’m a stress non eater. And going through a break up really took a toll on my weight gain process. The weight that took me months to put on started disappearing in a matter of weeks.
I realized that I had to pull myself together if I didn’t want to mess up all my progress.
If you have similar issues just remember you have your goals and even if you get distracted don’t let them disappear. Get back to them as soon as you take care of your mental health.
The progress can be addicting.
Once you start seeing the progress it encourages you to keep going. For once your clothes no longer fit. You’re seeing curves in places you didn’t have them before. You’re seeing muscles you didn’t know you had. It’s like a whole new world. Embrace it!
To this day I love seeing progress. I’m not in the process of gaining weight anymore but I still keep up with my workout and healthy eating. And even if there are days or weeks where I’m not as consistent as I know I can be, I don’t give up.
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